Posted by Tamar on July 3, 2005, at 13:04:58
In reply to Re: Feeling disconnected » Tamar, posted by Dinah on June 29, 2005, at 15:49:34
> It happens to me sometimes, as you've probably read. And it always scares me because I feel like it's permanent. So far it hasn't been.
You are so right. It does feel as if it's going to be permanent. But I seem to be coming out of it now.
> I know from my husband's experience that layoffs at work are very traumatic for everyone involved. I'm guessing that would be enough of a trigger to put you into a self protective mode. It hurts to see people you care about let go. It hurts to wonder if it will ever happen to you. Loss hurts. And one way to deal with loss is to cut yourself off from feeling.
I hadn't realised it, but I think you're right: I was cutting myself off from feeling.
> Do you think it might help to encourage yourself to grieve over the losses? Or at least give yourself time to adjust to it, and realize you aren't going to be yourself for a while.Yes, I think grief would be appropriate. And that takes time and energy. I guess I just need to accept that I need to take that time to grieve before I can move on. I expect myself to be superhuman but I guess I'm not!
> ((((Tamar))))
Thanks for the hugs. Here are some for you too: ((((Dinah))))
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