Posted by pinkeye on July 2, 2005, at 21:32:40
In reply to Re: One week down » fallsfall, posted by daisym on July 1, 2005, at 23:09:17
I had the same issue with my husband.. He was extremely jealous and possesive of me sharing things with a male psychiatrist.
Then I stopped telling him that I still wrote to him. And I didn't defend psychiatrists in front of him. That is what helped.
If you can't see your therapist without your husband's knowledge, one thing to do would be to not talk about your therapy sessions with your husband. Don't share anything on what you say or what you are working on. Or maybe say something like your therapist is like your dad or something or like your pastor. Try not to call your therapist from home when your husband is around. Also telling your husband about things that bother you (csa) in more detail might also make him empathize with you.
> My husband told me tonight that he thinks I share more about what is going on with me with my therapist than with him. I said this is true to some extent but not the day to day stuff. He said he thinks it is wrong for me to be sharing my life with someone else, he thinks that is what husbands (and/or wives) are supposed to be for. And, "didn't you ever consider how it makes me feel to know you talk about our personal stuff...This is why I hate psychiatrists." I was speechless, I don't even know how we ended up in this discussion. I said, "are you asking me to quit?" He mumbled something about he shouldn't have to ask and stalked off.
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