Posted by annierose on July 2, 2005, at 6:16:01
In reply to Re: One week down » fallsfall, posted by daisym on July 1, 2005, at 23:09:17
Sounds like your husband feels hurt by your connection with your T. I think that is typical, to an extent. Our therapists are so important, a solid source of support. And our husbands feel left out.
Over father's day weekend, my mom-in-law, who is a psychologist, was discussing a family member's troubles (in general terms of "I feel so sorry for what xyz is going through). I mentioned that she had changed p-docs based on her husband's opinion that she wasn't getting better. My m-i-l reacted strongly. "Spouses should NEVER interfere with their therpists. It's such a special relationship and takes years to build, and they aren't inside the room and ...." I forget the rest. I was surprised at how quickly and strongly she reacted. And my husband gave me a look that seemed to say, "Is she trying to tell me something about you?"
Later that evening when we were alone, I told my husband that I do not speak to my m-i-l about my therapy. But I do understand what she was trying to say. That sometimes I feel I need to defend my need for going (3 x a week) and I shouldn't have to. Although he'll never understand why, he should support my decision.
Daisy, one week down, another to go. You're at the half way point. I hope you don't have to cancel your other appointments due to work. You'll feel better going.
Annierose
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