Posted by daisym on July 1, 2005, at 23:54:02
In reply to Re: I quit therapy today, posted by 10derHeart on July 1, 2005, at 22:50:50
I agree with Tender, I wish I could say it as well! We've all done the pull away thing, both on voice mail and in person. I'm sorry he didn't get back to you today, I bet he was swamped and/or leaving early. For all you know, his secretary didn't get the messages to him...maybe SHE left early. But my best guess is that you didn't ask him to call back, so he is giving you some space. (You didn't, did you? Sorry if I assumed this. )
I also know that different therapists react differently to clients who quit. Most wait for the client to contact them and ask to meet again. It depends on conversations you might have had around this kind of thing. I'm sure he doesn't want an apology from you. I'd bet that if you called and said, "I want my appointment back" you would get it and then he would want to know why you felt the need to take such a strong stance. Mine would ask me if I was testing him and he would be OK with me doing that.
And I seriously doubt he thought you were "bugging him" with too many phone calls. Obviously you are upset and he would expect multiple calls until you felt calmer. Or at least mine would. Calling is tricky, again it depends on the individual therapist. But mine has always insisted that he wants to prevent a melt down if possible instead of trying to mop up the puddle. You should ask him to ease your mind.
I'm sorry it is a long weekend. I hear your stress and sadness. Have faith that it will work out.
Hugs to you,
Daisy
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