Posted by 10derHeart on July 1, 2005, at 22:50:50
In reply to Re: I quit therapy today » happyflower, posted by messadivoce on July 1, 2005, at 20:49:22
I echo what Voce said. IF you do decide to stop (and I think I'm hearing that you don't really want that...) please do give a lot of thought to going through it "properly", so to speak. That's not the right word, but...I mean, can you imagine the irony with all of us agreeing on how T's should be SO careful about abrupt or sudden-anythings about stopping contact...and then we get so emotional one day, we try to do it to ourselves! I've been so close, several times....
I don't mean, "HF, go take care of your T's feelings like he should take care of yours," no, no. Because you NEVER have to focus on that - not your job. We try to be civil and kind to them - but only to a point. I think if he's as good as he seems, he'll certainly understand *impulsive quitting.* Many posters here have done it - it's part of the process for some.
You must feel so bad, though. Mad and confused and silly and resentful you have to go through this... (((hf))) let us help through the weekend,okay?
But I wonder if this might turn out to be a HUGE step in moving therapy forward. Can't pin it down, but something about the tone of your first post made me feel like there's something underneath here, something important from RL to hash out...not to mention he HASN't given you enough justification for the "liar" thing.
I'll bet the phone call had other stuff we can't imagine going on before and after it for him, too.
Because isn't him being short, cold or anything like it out of whack for his demeanor as your T.?You hang in there and try not to jump to conclusions...that thinking can cause a ton of pain when really, what we fear isn't even close to the truth...at least find out fact-to-face first, what the truth is...gosh have I been there with 2 T's, and usually, they weren't feeling any bad stuff toward me at all... have hope...I do ! :-)
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