Posted by Tamar on June 24, 2005, at 17:07:52
In reply to Re: tootriggered to write....**graphic triggers!** » B2chica, posted by Jazzed on June 24, 2005, at 16:55:18
> Blame your "friend", since she knew and led you into it. BTW, she was no friend.
Maybe... but also: blame the rapist. He's the one who is fully responsible for the attack. I think it's understandable to blame your friend for her betrayal of you, but at the same time as blaming her you might be implicitly blaming yourself for not having the judgment to realise she would betray you (if that makes sense). The person who has to take full responsiblity for the attack is the man who attacked you.
As long as we don't hold rapists fully responsible for rape we allow them to destroy our sense of personal intergrity.
Sorry for the rant.
Tamar
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