Posted by Jazzed on June 23, 2005, at 22:39:18
In reply to Re: Very frustrated with therapy » crushedout, posted by Dinah on June 23, 2005, at 22:19:49
> But I must confess to being a bit taken aback at people being willing and eager to take on therapists that they think are abrasive or incompetent for the purpose of avoiding strong positive feelings. (or for any other reason I guess).
>Moi?! Am I one of the ones? LOL
I thought when I went to the first session with the new T (and then when you read what I just posted, you might think "what the heck?") I came out of there mad as heck, and thinking the guy was very abrasive (in his case not incompetent though, or he wouldn't be in this office, I am sure.) But, I think for me, there's a part of me that needs to get mad and be able to confront someone, and someone that's not going to coddle me too much. I have a terrible time with confrontation, and when I told him how I felt after the first session, he didn't hit me or anything! LOL He didn't run, he didn't get mad, he apologized, and I felt better, like there was definite potential for a relationship.
I can see from talking to him that he will have a very soft, reassuring side. I think I will be able to open up to him and trust him, and he makes me think a LOT about the things he says, which is unusal for me because I very quickly forget what ppl say to me. But he will also be tough as nails, and try to light a fire under my *ss! I need that from someone. He sees that I have dissatisfaction in my life, and he wants to know what the heck I'm going to do about it.
If I had a T that I felt too strongly about, for me it goes back to the fear of men. I would be too anxious, would be worried about what they thought of me, and might not be willing to fully open up. With someone like this guy, I don't really care too terribly much what he thinks of me, and I think opening up will be a breeze. My p-doc says he's smart, and while that's not a ringing endorsement, I have to trust that he'll do a great job for me.
Just a different take on it.
Jazzy
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