Posted by Dinah on June 23, 2005, at 22:19:49
In reply to Very frustrated with therapy, posted by crushedout on June 23, 2005, at 21:51:36
It seems like a lot of people are trying to avoid intense feelings for their therapists right now, and I can sort of understand that. Whenever you open your heart and soul to someone, you risk pain and loss. It's true with friendships, and love, and here on Babble. Even with pets. Part of me thinks it's foolish to give anyone the power to hurt me. Part of me thinks life isn't worth living without at least striving for the rewards that only come accompanied by risks.
But I must confess to being a bit taken aback at people being willing and eager to take on therapists that they think are abrasive or incompetent for the purpose of avoiding strong positive feelings. (or for any other reason I guess).
That being said, I think my therapist is an incompetent boob sometimes, from some parts of me. I hear of therapists with great insights, and I get frustrated with him. But... He has many fine and useful qualities. And some very unique strengths. He's got some weaknesses too, and sometimes I get hung up on those and lose sight of the big picture. I'm not sure I could stay with him if there were not very strong positives to balance the negatives and tip the big picture to an overall plus.
Does she have any strengths that you're not focusing on right now?
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