Posted by pinkeye on June 20, 2005, at 16:50:27
In reply to Re: Anybody secretly wishes your T would read here? » pinkeye, posted by Tamar on June 20, 2005, at 16:39:41
And it may not really be possible for people like us - who have had csa and years of emotional abuse or in your case like rape.
It is extremely difficult to love ourselves wihtout adequate positive substitution from our surrounding people.
Peole (including Ts) say that the key is to accept yoruself and love yourself, but they forget to realize that human emotions need some amount of external validation throughout their life and not just in childhood to be able to feel it towards themselves.. They accept that if a child is not loved properly by the parents, then the child would demonstrate destructive patterns, but somehow once you become an adult, every body wants you to suddenly somehow magically be able to change your emotions and love yourselves without any influence from others. I think it needs to grow both ways (both from external as well as internal)
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