Posted by Tamar on June 20, 2005, at 4:29:12
In reply to Re: Women’s things (****possible trigger****), posted by TerraJo on June 19, 2005, at 23:02:58
> i also dissociate. but it helps to take a benzo, and more than your usual dose. and it helps to take someone in there who will talk to you non-stop so you can be distracted. and it really helps to plan ahead to give yourself a reward.... usually some childlike reward is the best: icecream cone, movie, playing in the kids section at Barnes & Nobles.... anything to help the inner child who is triggered. sometimes if you promise a reward afterward, the triggered child won't even "show up" to the appointment and you find you can get right through it as a mature adult without having much feeling about it. but you have to follow through with the reward. if you do it this way, it will make the days afterwards less traumatic, too. plan to watch "charlie and the chocolate factory" or "mary poppins" or other soothing things. all of that will help and before you know it you'll be back to your mature adult decisions.
Thanks TerraJo. I really like your idea about promising myself a reward, especially the idea of ice cream! I think you're right; the feelings could hang on for quite a while, and finding soothing things to do should help a lot.
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