Posted by happyflower on June 13, 2005, at 15:47:26
In reply to Re: feeling totally frusterated! » happyflower, posted by fallsfall on June 13, 2005, at 12:45:36
> When he says that you are critical, he might not be saying that you should *change* what you are doing. He might just be labeling what you Are doing. Perhaps you need to spend some time talking about how you feel critical, and when (in your past) you have felt critical.
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You make a good point here. He only told me that he feels I am critical of him. But then it was me who saw that maybe I act like this with almost everyone. I do appreciate his honesty, but it was hard to take critisism from him. But he was right, and I am trying to work on it, but maybe I am over doing it a bit.
> I am almost positive that he doesn't want you to stop being honest with him in order to sound less critical.
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> Ask *him* how you should deal with this. These are important issues to talk about in therapy.I think you are right this is an issue that we need to discuss Wed. There is so many things I want to talk about, I wish therapy could last longer than 50 min. Thanks fallsfall for you input! :)
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