Posted by Dinah on June 12, 2005, at 7:19:23
In reply to Re: Update...., posted by happyflower on June 12, 2005, at 7:12:14
How about the feelings are real, but they are fostered in an unreal environment. You're seeing a better person, in all likelihood, than anyone in his real life sees.
My therapist and I actually discuss this openly. How much easier it is for me to love him as my therapist /mommy than it is for those who see all sides of him, or it would be for me if he were my real mommy.
Think about taking any fantasies you have for him to the pragmatic reality. Picture him doing the most annoying things your husband does, because believe me, if he doesn't do those particular ones he does ones just as annoying.
Or... Just imagine they felt as free to be their authentic selves as they do with their loved ones. While in session! Shudder.
It's not limited to therapy, of course. My husband's coworkers think he is the most patient man alive.
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