Posted by happyflower on June 12, 2005, at 7:12:14
In reply to Update...., posted by JLynn on June 11, 2005, at 22:57:45
((((JLynn))) You know something simular happened to me in my last session. I told my T that I was acting critical of him because I wanted to pull away because I was feeling too close to him.
Well he went on to tell me that feelings in therapy is very simular to real life but they are different. Thats why he can't hug or socialize with me because it would confuse the issue of my feelings of being real life and not therapy.
I find it ironic that I am going to therapy to learn to "feel" my feelings and learn to trust other people, and the 1st person I feel and want to trust, tells me it isn't real because I feel them in therapy. Is it so wrong to feel close to your therapist? Is he telling me because he is my therapist he is a fake person made out of plastic and what I am feeling isn't real. Can you have feelings for people even if you don't know everything about them? I feel for the people who went through Sept. 11th, but does that mean it isn't real because I don't everything about them or have even met them? I just think therapist hid behind a shield from our feelings. They have to stay opjective to help us, so they have come up with a way to say our feelings aren't real about them, it's transference, so they don't have to concider what we are feeling is real. I hope your next session goes better, JLynn. :) I feel for you but it must be transference because I don't know everything about you. lol
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