Posted by messadivoce on May 17, 2005, at 19:06:10
In reply to Re: How he would have responded *****Trigger****** » messadivoce, posted by pinkeye on May 17, 2005, at 17:00:58
> It is not wrong or weird to be 22 and still a virgin. It is quite alright. In fact, in India, 99 % of the women are virgins up until they get married. It is almost expected of everyone. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. I was a virgin until I got married - till about 25. IT is perfectly normal. Don't worry about it. And if you are raised that way, then you are that way. You cannot do anything about it. >
Thanks, pinkeye. It is such an American cultural thing. All of my friends have lost their virginity and I am the only one left. I am not usually ashamed of being a virgin, but I think my male T was a little surprised when I told him. My female T was not.
I don't talk about my virginal state when I get together with friends. Everyone assumes I'm "doing it" like everyone else. I always avoid questions about it.
> Maybe you should tell your Ex T about the csa now, if it will help you gain closure - since from what I understood, your ex T still responds to your emails.>
I would hate to spring that on him when we only communicate every few months, and he only sends a couple of lines. I think if I were to put that out there, I would need more from him than he is able to give.
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