Posted by pinkeye on May 16, 2005, at 18:41:43
In reply to Re: T on Why I Don't Feel Safe, posted by happyflower on May 16, 2005, at 18:29:56
It is interesting to me that you compare us to the boys. That is perhaps true. I think every client wants the T to be very attached to them and be there always for them and love them always etc. And somehow we expect to get it, and we get it during the course of therapy, but after it is over, we don't get it anymore, so we become disappointed and frustrated and even angry with the T. Maybe it is part of the regular separation process.. perhaps that is the way our emotions work.
I think the right thing for a client to do is to understand that the T's part in their life is over, and get it, and move on and try to use what you learnt in therapy in real life. But it is not as easy as it sounds. For one thing is, T relationship become like a personal relationship rather than like a business transaction. So it is not easy for the client to understand that it is over. Especially if the T has been genuinely concerned and is a good person.
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