Posted by Tamar on May 12, 2005, at 14:02:58
In reply to Re: Woke up this morning (cue blues chords) » Tamar, posted by pinkeye on May 11, 2005, at 17:53:53
> Did you make up with your husband? Would that help? If it is over trivial matter, maybe you should just give in and move on?
That’s what I did. But it’s not really resolved. Oh well, maybe next time we fight about it I’ll be in a better frame of mind!
> Did your ex T tell you that he is planning to move somewhere? Or is it just your fear? Even if he is here, will you be able to see him again? I haven't seen my ex T for more than a year and a half now, and I don't think I will ever see him again.
As far as I know he has no plans to move. And when we terminated he said I could come back and see him in the future if I need to. But I suddenly realised that if I need to see him in a couple of years he might have moved to a new job somewhere else. And if he moved HE WOULDN’T TELL ME. It freaks me out a bit. I have this scary fear that I’ll need him in two years and I’ll try to contact him and someone will say, “Oh no – he went to work in [insert distant city] nine months ago.” Argh!
> But what you can do, is probably live up to what he taught you. I made a promise to my ex T that I will continue to live well, and will try to help others. And many days, when I miss him, remembering that promise helps me keep going. It is as if a way to connect to him. And even writing to other people in this board actually helps me. Can you do something like that?
That’s very true. I did say that I planned to work hard at not becoming depressed again, and it does keep me going. I feel I have a responsibility to myself to use what I learned in therapy to stay healthy.
Thanks pinkeye.
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