Posted by mair on May 3, 2005, at 21:37:29
In reply to Re: Hollow Words (triggerish) » mair, posted by fallsfall on May 3, 2005, at 18:26:46
> I think that when we say "It will get better", we may not be trying to convince the other person that their life will get better. It is almost more like we are saying that we believe in life, and that we know that it is hard for them to believe it at this moment, but perhaps they can hold on to our belief until theirs comes back.
Yes I can recall having this sentiment (the belief in life one) but it seems so far away now.
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> I know how hard it is to not know how long it will be and how hard it will be to come up for air again. But try to remember that when you *are* up for air that it is pretty neat. That there is something worthwhile to work towards.I think the not knowing how hard is about as scary as the not knowing how long. Right now I just don't feel that I'm up to it.
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> I wish I could say "Here's a magic pill" or "3 months of therapy will do it for you", but you wouldn't believe me anyway. It doesn't work that way. I guess all you can really do is believe that it *will* end, and that it is worth working as hard as you can to make that happen as soon as possible. Maybe the process of defeating the depression becomes the purpose of life right now.My T suggested that I take some time off work now since I have so many work related anxieties, but she didn't push it as hard as she has in the past. I think she knows my family needs my income and she's probably astute enough to realize that it wouldn't help since so many of my present anxieties are about not getting my work done or losing clients or not being productive. Before I started really careening down hill her focus was to find ways for me to get my work done. Besides, I'm equally as capable these days of feeling anxious at home too.
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> I know it is dark. I'm sorry you feel so awful. But there is hope, even if you can't see it. And we need you to fight for it.
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> (((Mair)))
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> (I owe you... remember... let me know when you want it)Thanks, falls. I haven't forgotten. It definitely has to get warmer and I need to get my head together a little first. Did you say you'd meet me half way? How far away are you from your state's capital?
mair
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