Posted by annierose on April 30, 2005, at 7:35:27
In reply to Re: You'll laugh at this » annierose, posted by Daisym on April 29, 2005, at 10:33:15
Dasiy -
I can see why you wouldn't share the details with your husband and children re: the CSA. You're right. That would alter their relationship with their grandparents. Although, it's pretty amazing you still have a relationship with them at all.My T was encouraging me to share the pain and lonliness I felt as a child (in a family of 7), so my daughter wouldn't feel all alone. Now that she knows that my parents were not the best set of parents in the world, she does see them differently and, can I say, more accurately. Over Easter break we visited them. My daughter asked me, "why is your dad always angry?" and "how come grandma is always napping?".
Lieing down? It was such a struggle to get there. My T encouraged me to try it. She said that it's easier to get to those hurt places. We talked about it for months. I set a deadline in my head, and that first time I tried it, I heard trains running through my brain. It was so loud inside my head. The longest 45 minutes of my life. I told her I would give it 3 weeks. At the end of the 3 weeks, although it was still difficult, I did feel closer to her, so I continued. Months later, it's much more comfortable, and I know, I can sit at anytime.
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