Posted by Dinah on April 29, 2005, at 13:01:09
In reply to (((((pinkeye))))) (nm) » pinkeye, posted by Tamar on April 29, 2005, at 12:37:01
Yes, it could have been so different.
The good side of that is that it still can be so different. You're working on that by going to therapy, sorting out your values and what you want in life, being aware of what drives you rather than just reacting.
We're all shaped by our pasts, and they will always be a part of who we are and how we respond. But if we didn't believe that we could be oh so much more than our pasts, we wouldn't invest time and energy in therapy.
I'm sorry for you that your father made the choices he did. I'm sorry for your father and mother as well. I'm sorry you had to grow up too soon and not appropriately. (((pinkeye)))
But I have confidence in you, that whatever decisions you make, you will make them with enough self awareness that they will truly be your decisions, and you will truly carve your own destiny.
poster:Dinah
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