Posted by pinkeye on April 28, 2005, at 21:04:57
In reply to Re: What would progress look like for you? » pinkeye, posted by Dinah on April 28, 2005, at 20:38:44
I didn't mean the achievement mountain either. I meant the relationships and personal growth.
But if your husband is not really into cultivating more emotionally rewarding relationship with you, then I guess you have kind of reached a plateau. Lot of us reach that stage, where even if we want to keep growing, the people around us to whom it should make sense become stale, and then we feel there is no point in growing anymore.
And I know you have already substituted other ways of fulfilling your emotional needs - through friends, and through this board etc.
Maybe now, then you need to divert your attention to things which will never reach a plateau. Like making a difference in people's lives - like taking up some social cause or something and living for that, or trying to make a difference in the world etc.
I am quite afraid of the same thing - that I will end up reaching a plateau in emotional growth any of these upcoming days. I feel I am pretty close to it, and when I reach it I will have to find some other form of obsession - instead of this psychology thing. I will cultivate new interest - maybe go deeper into music, or get involved in some social work in my country, or start a business or something. Not for the achievement per se, but mostly because I need to do something to keep my brain occupied. This was actually a suggestion given to me by my ex T - that I need to find some social activity to work on. And I think it is a pretty good suggestion.
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