Posted by pinkeye on April 28, 2005, at 14:06:13
In reply to Re: Wanting to apologize to my ex T, posted by PM80 on April 28, 2005, at 13:36:28
Thank you. My T has never blamed me - not even once so far.
Only I feel like he didn't have any resources at his disposal to understand all that what I was going through.. he didn't have so much access to internet, they don't teach about all these transference in his college in India, they don't talk about transference especially sexual transference, he didn't have even access to good book stores in the remote town where he was in India. He has never been to the US, and doesn't have any idea of how therapy is done here.I had access to all these. I was aware of both the cultures, have been in both the places. Had endless access to internet and such discussion boards. I could have understood things little earlier instead of hurting myself so much over him. Or I could have atleast gone to someone here long back. I didn't do any of it. Instead I just ended up getting hurt hurt hurt, and kept asking me to help me out. I am just thankful he didn't think of me as just trying to flirt with him. Anybody else in India would have straight away concluded that I was behaving like a slut.. they would never understand all these transferences and projections and everything. I should have been aware of it.
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