Posted by pinkeye on April 5, 2005, at 20:09:55
In reply to Re: thank you all » pinkeye, posted by shrinking violet on April 5, 2005, at 20:04:25
Maybe just understanding that she made a mistake with you, and not making a monster out of her will help you. Even if you blame a person for not doing things correctly, you can still appreciate that atleast she had good intentions. That accounts for a huge deal. By being honest about her mistakes, you are helping yourself move on. But that does not mean, you need to put her down or make a bad person out of her, or even for that matter be angry with her.
By all means, you can continue to feel grateful to her for what she tried to do for you, what she did.. and at the same time acknowledge that she is not very capable of helping you. That will kind of put things in perspective and let you heal and move on without having to either blame you or blame her.
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