Posted by Dinah on March 31, 2005, at 14:22:09
In reply to Re: Internalizing, posted by Susan47 on March 31, 2005, at 11:56:41
I was talking about me, Susan. I was saying that *now* I have internalized my therapist in a good way. There's a warm safe spot inside that I can go to (at least short term) to hold me over to the next session. I can picture a little him in my minds eye telling me more or less what he'd actually tell me.
But for ME, if he were to do anything that felt like abandonment to me, I wouldn't be able to hold on to those good things. I'd be too angry. The space where he is inside would turn ugly. And I was suggesting that if messadivorce experienced things as I did, that she might have trouble internalizing him in a positive way while she's angry. And that she and her therapist might want to work on anger rather than internalization.
Or she (or you for that matter) might not be anything like me. She (or you) might not feel overwhelming rage if your therapist/mommy, ummmmm... excuse me - your therapist, were to do something that felt like abandonment. Everyone reacts to things differently. So if what I say doesn't apply to you, that's fine.
I just tend to get angry with abandonment. I'm even a bit angry with Daddy and Harry for leaving me here all alone.
But that's me.
poster:Dinah
thread:477523
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20050329/msgs/478192.html