Posted by pegasus on March 30, 2005, at 12:21:46
In reply to I can't escape him, posted by messadivoce on March 30, 2005, at 1:02:08
I will just never understand why therapists think this is a reasonable way to terminate a client. It is *not* easier for the client to have no contact with their ex-T. It does *not* facilitate the client moving on to a new therapist more easily. It feels like a rejection and a betrayal, which makes it much *harder* to continue productive therapy with a new therapist. Why is that so hard to understand from a theoretical point of view? (exasperated sigh at the psychotherapy profession)
I was lucky in that my ex-T has been willing to stay in contact. For the first several months, I emailed him every couple of weeks or so, and he'd reply to about half of my emails with short but warm messages. I even called him once about 2 months after he left, to make sure he was ok, and still there if I needed him. Lately I've been emailing him a lot less. But I know that if I did contact him, he'd reply, especially if it was about something big. Maybe he was so generous about this because it was his fault that my therapy ended prematurely (he moved away unexpectedly for personal reasons).
It just seems like such a kinder and more supportive and consistent way to handle it. I wish you could have had that type of termination also. Not that it was easy, but it sounds like it was at least easier.
(((voce)))
pegasus
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