Posted by Tamar on March 26, 2005, at 20:11:47
In reply to The real reason I don't want my therapist here, posted by Dinah on March 23, 2005, at 23:29:27
I tend to think that all conversations are subject to differences of perspective, but the therapy relationship is particularly strange because of the way it's constructed, especially if there's a strong emphasis on transference.
If you think you're being unfair to your therapist, maybe you should ask whether you're being unfair to yourself.
I was very surprised to discover that my therapist didn't remember every word I'd said in previous sessions! On reflection, I shouldn't have been so surprised, but I came to understand that his point of view was completely different from mine. However, I decided it didn't really matter as long as I knew what was important for me.
Sorry, I'm not being very coherent. I think I'm trying to say: maybe what matters is how you represent *yourself* rather than how you depict your therapist.
And also you have said many nice things about him, so it does seem that he is quite sweet. If you are sometimes a bit frustrated with him, it's only natural. The only cure for our frustration with our therapists would come if they could read our minds, and I'm not sure anyone wants that!
Don't be too hard on yourself.
Tamar
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