Posted by messadivoce on March 24, 2005, at 0:11:59
In reply to The real reason I don't want my therapist here, posted by Dinah on March 23, 2005, at 23:29:27
Dinah, I honestly don't think that there's anything like "reality" in these situations. Only perception. But isn't that part of the reason we are in therapy? To discover our own filters, and recognize that people aren't always like the people who have mistreated us in the past? That's why the therapy relationship is so powerful, I think. Because we see people in our T's.
When I'm with my T, there's only 2 of us in the room, though, so there are only going to be 2 points of view. Just like in any other relationship. I think a lot of the work we do with our T's serves the purpose of examining our own point of view of ourselves, and others. Discovering our truth.
I get the idea that your T is generally a good, helpful person who has shortcomings that affect your therapy sometimes. I think that he is a better person today because he is your T, and when I read posts about him I know that your are telling your own truth about how you react to him those few hours a week. He sounds really human to me. In fact, ALL of the T's I read about here (with the exception of Daisy's) are imperfect human beings who are just trying to help people the best they can. And sometimes they don't quite hit the mark. But since being in therapy makes a person more articulate, I never really question people's perceptions of their T's, because after all, therapy is supposed to make you more able to deal with what life gives you and help you be able to explain and come to terms with it.
I don't know if that makes any sense.
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