Posted by alexandra_k on March 26, 2005, at 15:55:56
In reply to I'm glad. He can be sweet., posted by Dinah on March 25, 2005, at 22:41:32
> He wore yellow today,
Oh wow Dinah!!! That is very sweet indeed. Maybe he is feeling a bit regretful for trying to talk you out of the yellow and pink thing :-)
>then was mock dismayed that I wasn't.
Aw.
>I told him I was wearing pink, and he said he didn't have a lot of pink in his wardrobe.
Ha ha! Still, pink and yellow. Pink and yellow is good :-) That was a sweet thing for him to do. You will have to buy him something pink if you think he'd take it. Or maybe some pink dye or something. He could dye something white :-)
> I was myself today, which is the extremely pessimistic negative self I am lately. I said that I didn't know if therapy (or anything) would be able to help me. So he suggested that I might want to quit going for a while. His intention, of course, which he did admit, was to shock me out of being so negative. But stubborn me retreated and said, sure, I'd quit going. That reverse psychology stuff never works on me. So he confessed, and said that he actually thought I should go more frequently. Which I can't, but it was nice of him not to stick to his guns.Yeah. Reverse psychology... When you know they are doing it you want to make it not work just so that you aren't reinforcing that darned annoying strategy :-)
I was thinking about what you said about being unfair on him...I guess I don't really see it that way because I know that you post from your perspective. So quite often I appreciate that you are telling your story (which is true for you) and that he woud have a different take on things. I kind of hold that in my mind.
It can be helpful sometimes to try to see things from their point of view. Sometimes we are still way off... But it can help. Especially when we are mad at them etc.
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