Posted by Tamar on March 10, 2005, at 17:25:16
In reply to Re: The idea is to keep yourself busy » Tamar, posted by pinkeye on March 10, 2005, at 16:41:41
> I have asked, and he said there was no question of him liking me or disliking me and that he was only trying to help me.
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> I think he meant to say he is indifferent to me.
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> But it is extremely hurting and confusing to me.That does sound hurtful and confusing. It also sounds like therapist-speak!
I can understand that you heard it as an indication that he was indifferent to you. But I doubt that’s what he meant by it.
Maybe he was trying to say that his personal feelings about you were not supposed to be explored during your therapy. Perhaps he would have been prepared to talk about your personal feelings towards him, but not about his feelings for you. I think lots of therapists share that view. But as you say, it can be very hurtful.
For what it’s worth, you seem very likeable to me and I find it hard to imagine that your therapist dislikes you.
I’m sorry you’re hurting.
Tamar
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