Posted by Tamar on March 10, 2005, at 14:29:29
In reply to The idea is to keep yourself busy » Tamar, posted by pinkeye on March 9, 2005, at 21:44:48
> But even if leaving a therapist is so extremely hard, it is not something that is not do-able at all. It can be done. And with time and effort you will be able to look back without the pain that you feel now because of leaving the person. You will definitely feel sad and will miss the person, but atleast it doesn't have to hurt too much.
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> Lots of times in life, we just have to move on and take some hard steps in life, because life demands it at several points to let go. And maybe you can keep in mind, that it is for the long term good that you are going through this now.
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> It is very hard, I know, but I am just trying to speak for myself as to you. The idea is to keep as busy as possible and try to keep occupying your mind with several other things that you don't keep thinking about this person.
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> Also if it is your last session, you might ask him somethings which you might wonder later - like if he liked you as a patient etc etc. Not sure if you will get an answer, but if you get a positive answer, that will be something to remember and cling to when you miss him. But it might be a double edged knife -if he refuses, then it will hurt - for a long time. Then you will wonder all sorts of things.. Be prepared for that.
That makes a lot of sense. I will definitely try to keep busy! I have a family and a job that will keep my mind occupied, although I do seem to be able to think about my T in the background all the time!I will also think about questions to ask him. I must say, though, that one of the great things about feeling better is that I finally realise he *does* like me and he *does* care about me very much. In some ways it makes saying goodbye a little harder, because I would love to go on seeing him as a friend, but of course I know it's impossible.
Thanks for your good ideas.
Tamar
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