Posted by gardenergirl on March 3, 2005, at 0:16:57
In reply to Sex and Shopping, posted by daisym on March 2, 2005, at 1:16:42
> I find it intensely interesting that shopping got mixed up in this thread. I don't link the two...shopping is an escape for me. I could spend hours trying on clothes. :)
Yuck and double yuck. Unless someone brought them to me. And helped me off with my shoes. And brought me a latte and cookies. :D
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> I don't have much to add as far as sex goes. I'm sure you've done the basics, change positions, etc. etc.I think we actually could do more experimenting. We both agree that there are certain techniques we both dislike. Now to find what we both like...
>I guess I've never thought of it as an intrusion before, but more about being "used" which is really old. Especially right now, since we are on different planets about this and he finds it soothing and settling and it sends me off the deep end.
Ugh, I wouldn't like that feeling either. I guess when I think intrusion I am thinking of the specific penetration part. I mean, it's someone inside your body. That's about as intrusive, physically, as you can get. But that doesn't mean it's always bad. I think that word stays with me as much because of the intial pain. But I'm thinking that practice and increased frequency, should that ever occur, might also help with that. I'm kinda tender, you know? (sheesh, I can't believe I am talking about this in a public place!)
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> I'm curious as to how you talk about sex with your therapist. Mine will say, "make love" or "get into it" or just plain "having sex" but almost never "intercourse". Sometimes we use proper terms, especially about body parts, but occasionally we get loose and use slang. (He swears about as much as I do, though I find it amusing sometimes.)Do you find you are using different words as a client than you do as a therapist?Um, I probably tend to use more clinical terms with clients when I want to be really sure what they are saying. But otherwise, I'll use what they use, although perhaps not swearing. I'm not much of a swearer except for the little words. And even then, it's more often poopy and darn and fudge. With my T, well, I suppose we use whatever works. I'm not remembering actual dialog at this point. Perhaps some euphemisms. But golly I did use some pretty specific terms at times, too. Probably painted an interesting picture. LOL.
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> Full of questions tonight -- feel free to ignore me.Never.
gg
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