Posted by annierose on February 27, 2005, at 7:34:54
In reply to More Freud stuff ...and new insight ***trigger****, posted by gardenergirl on February 26, 2005, at 23:54:10
GG-
I related to a lot of your post. My T and I made similar associations with sex and my father. I have 2 older sisters and when we were getting to our teen years, he always made comments about make-up (hated it) and nail polish ... basically any girly stuff. So being the youngest of the 3, I quickly decided not to draw any attention to myself and dressed extremely plain jane ... in fact last week, my kids and I were looking through old pictures of me growing up and my son said, "mom, you look like a boy". All of this has lead to some very interesting conversations in therapy.Now as an adult, I embrace my feminine side and sometimes even dress to draw attention to myself. It's all confusing because my husband will react (and like it) but then I get mad.
I can see how agression and sex would play into your life after a rape. I was never raped, but have had a sexual situation in college where I felt a kind of pressure to have sex. Anyway, sex is an agressive act, isn't it?
I'm in a great place with my T right now too. Even though she asked me last Thursday "am I trying to lose weight?", I'm thinking she asked that in context to missing my work-out and hopefully not a hidden message for me to lose weight. She also said last week, "I think I know you better than most people." What an understatement. Very few that know me better. Maybe 2 or 3.
Anyway, I guess Freud figured out that so much of life comes down to our parents and sex at our core. Pretty daunting task to be a parent.
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