Posted by cursed_one on February 25, 2005, at 17:49:10
In reply to Re: Emotional Abandonment (long) » daisym, posted by LG04 on February 18, 2005, at 2:41:52
i have read these posts and can sympathize with everyone. Abandonment issues are ones that take a lifetime of hard healing work to overcome. A bit of my own experiences: had an emotionally cruel mother, emotionally unavailable father. Married an emotionally unavailable/distant man. Am estranged from my entire extended family - they are into drug/alcohol abuse, i am not. My husband told me to find fulfillment outside the marrriage (we have not had sex in YEARS) - so i did - 5 years into it and i am a mess - guess what - he is an emotionally abusive in subtle ways i cannot cope with. i havehad many therapists - One died (not his fault), One i saw for about 8 years. i had a medical law suit for a birth injury which left my daughter partially
paralysed at birth and she was supeoned for my records. She called me frantic. i begged her not to hand over all the deeply personal letters i wrote her over the course of the 8 years. Her personal notes i understood she had to hand over
- she wasn't even amenable to me and her going over them and maybe a few pages just happened to "disappear" over the years - if they would even realize they were gone. Well to make a long story short - the jury was read all my dark secret skeletons and i lost the case. That evening i guess the world came crashing down and i tried to end my life. Was in ICU for a week - don't remember a damn thing - after that they
put me in a psych hospital - been in another since my release. Trust????? What is that????Therapists are people and when push comes to shove - they cover their own vulnerable *sses before they cover YOURS. Don't be fooled. i went to a therapist at the behest of my psychiatrist - he would not see me unlesss i was also in therapy - i saw him maybe 10 times. Granted he was a nice guy but when he said to me - after
my talking to him about my not wanting to be here any more except for the fact that my children would be irrevocably devestated - he said - well then why not focus on your children and make them your priority - my god how simple why did i not think of that before wowow *sarcasm i hope you realize*. That was his first faux pas. Then when i would not follow his advice he asked me why i was coming - i felt like kneeling and prostrating myself saying "oh wise therapist forgive this ignorant patient,
i will follow all your worthy and generous advice and be a better patient" i never went back - he never even called me. Sooooooooo - whats the answer? Take another chance - or more pills next time?
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