Posted by Dinah on February 24, 2005, at 19:39:33
In reply to Re: For vs. About » Speaker, posted by Dinah on February 24, 2005, at 19:13:37
It did take an awfully long time to build a relationship. Upwards of five years. And that was partly, but not entirely, my fault. It does seem that finding a therapist you could bond with earlier might be more cost effective.
But in his own way, my therapist can be very warm. I called him first thing this morning, because it had occurred to me overnight that the reason he may have been frustrated yesterday is that I'm burning him out. He's pretty much singlehandedly (IRL) had to worry about me and deal with my despair. It keeps coming back, and maybe he was wearing out from it. So I called and left a message asking him if he was getting worn out from my constant intense sadness. I let him know that I didn't need or expect a return call, that we could talk about it tomorrow.
He called back not too long after. I reminded him that he didn't need to call, and he answered very gently (for him anyway) that he knew he didn't need to but he wanted to anyway. And he assured me that he was one person in my life who was not going to get worn out from my feelings. That I could feel sad for as long as I needed to.
It was another of the really nice things he's done lately.
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