Posted by Blossom on February 18, 2005, at 21:35:02
In reply to Re: relationship Blossom » Blossom, posted by Dinah on February 18, 2005, at 19:59:18
> Maybe you can pursue some time consuming and or money consuming interests. Most people decide to quit going to therapy because they find that they eventually feel that their time and money could be put to better use. Maybe you could give that a little shove.
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It's funny that you should mention the time and money thing, because I am a graduate student, short on both. And I've thought a lot that I would like to save the money I spend on therapy. Maybe I should think about it a little more. ;)>
> Clearly he's got bad boundaries, and that's practically guaranteed to arouse some complex feelings in you. That's the reasons the boundaries are strongly supported by the licensing bodies.He was very good with boundaries for a while. I didn't know anything about him until about the time that I felt I was really getting to the point where I was feeling "normal" again. Then, I think it was about this time that he had a couple of tough spots in his own life. First a death in the family. I think I wrote about it here, but in brief, he came in and was obviously feeling very low, and I overheard him talking about the funeral with a colleague. After our session, I sent a note down to the receptionist to give to him when he went to his other practice later in the day, basically saying that I was sorry to hear of his loss, etc. Nothing mushy. Then he had a major surgery, like I said. Since I was in the hospital that day, I left a simple get-well note at the nurse's station. I wonder if maybe there was a reversal of roles there for a bit or something. But doesn't it seem like something that any of you would do for your T? Anyway, just musing...At any rate, he's obviously gotten very comfortable with me.
I actually terminated with him once before and then came back later. The first time, it wasn't like this at all, but that was before he got so familiar with me.
Hopefully, you're right, and the money and time thing will eventually win out. I'm really hoping that he'll annoy me or make me angry or something and I'll just WANT to forget about him.
Blossom
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