Posted by Dinah on February 11, 2005, at 19:34:01
In reply to Re: A parent who drank a lot » tryingtobewise, posted by Dinah on February 11, 2005, at 16:52:18
Whatever my father's sweet vulnerable lips as a boy might say, and however much the family lore has him as the invalid boy picked on by the neighborhood toughs, my father was not the innocent sensitive soul I just made him out to be.
He could be insensitive enough to be comical. And while he chose never to be physically abusive, he could be verbally abusive to people he didn't respect. I was lucky that I only got a touch of it at the very end of his life and none for most of my life. He said things to my mother and brother that made me cry for as long as I can remember. With or without booze.
But I loved him anyway. And he was a man of integrity and good sense. He had many fine and useful qualities.
But he wasn't the idealized tortured soul I just made him out to be.
Blechhhh.
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