Posted by Dinah on February 11, 2005, at 16:47:26
In reply to Re: A parent who drank a lot » Dinah, posted by All Done on February 10, 2005, at 23:35:12
Your story is a pretty big thing to offer. :)
My father was pretty unavailable when I was very young. I told my therapist that I think of him as being "over there" (the bar and kitchen), while Mother and I were "back here". But that's a very very old memory.
I don't think it had anything at all to do with his drinking. Daddy definitely loved his little girl, but he didn't have much to say to very little kids. He never did all his life. Wasn't quite sure what to do with them. Once I got old enough to be interesting, in the words of Indiana Jones' father, we used to talk and talk if I came and sat with him at the bar as he drank.
I'm so glad my mother never laid that sort of burden on me. That would have been grossly unfair.
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