Posted by mair on February 2, 2005, at 21:46:15
In reply to I think I need to find a new T, posted by partlycloudy on February 2, 2005, at 20:04:21
Once with my current pdoc, I showed up for an appointment and she wasn't there. You enter her office from the outside of a building so it was particularly disconcerting to walk up to the building door and just find it locked. I went back to my office and checked my calendar, and I was clearly there when I thought I was supposed to be. It turned out that she had me down in her book for several days earlier (when I obviously hadn't showed). She told me she assumed i had forgotten the appointment. This really frosted me because 1) I had always been very reliable about appointments, and 2) if she thought I had forgotten, why wouldn't she email me or call me to find out what happened. How long was she going to wait to hear from me? And really I'm positive I was right - I may have even found the appointment card. She never seemed particularly apologetic and it never sat well with me that she wouldn't try to find out why I didn't show.
I think these appointments are more important to us than they are to Ts, and I think they need to realize this and respect our need for certainty. This was just a pdoc, not a T, and it didn't make me want to get rid of her, but it did take me a bit to get over it.
I think you need to discuss this with your T; it would certainly bother me.
mair
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