Posted by shrinking violet on January 21, 2005, at 19:02:07
In reply to Re: i don't want a new T » shrinking violet, posted by crushedout on January 20, 2005, at 20:23:16
Hi crushed,
I've often felt that our situations with our T's are similar, the only difference being there is a sexual element to your relationship with your T where there isn't one in mine. But the ways our T's react to us seems fairly similar, as does our reactions to what they do/say. I still wonder if it's her problem as a T or my problem as a client.
>> It occurs to me (and I could be completely off-base -- don't hesitate to tell me if I am) that you might be angry at your T and/or feel abandoned, even though on a rational level you realize it's not her fault that you guys have to stop therapy. And that (a) that might be part of what's making you want to end early and (b) that might be part of what's making you want to give up on therapy entirely. Since it's what she desperately wants you to do (i.e., continue), refusing to do so may on some level be an expression of anger or disappointment with her. Like I said, this could be way off.--No, that's a great insight and you're probably right on some level (if not all levels). I just hate it when I get this upset and depressed and I don't know why. How can I expect my T to figure me out when I can't figure myself out? If I ever get the courage to go back to see her again (see my updated response) I'll definitely use your theories. Thank you.
Take care, and you hang in there too!
SV
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