Posted by CareBear04 on January 19, 2005, at 17:44:15
In reply to Re: she canceled., posted by lonelygal on January 19, 2005, at 17:09:06
so sorry for this, lonelygal! i know the others have recommended giving her another chance, but i think you should look for someone else who can see you sooner and who takes seriously how much pain you're in and how much danger you pose to yourself. there are usually pdocs or Ts who, when willing, are able to see you much sooner than within a week. for me, when i was falling apart fast and no pdoc could fit me in right away, i had one hope left-- the one i'd been referred to. i had left him at least three messages, and he never called back. when he finally did, i was as bad as could be, and he told me that he didn't know how bad my situation was, but he couldn't fit me in for at least a month; i should call then and see. that was the last straw for me. i felt like no one was appreciating how dangerous i was and how desperate i felt. i should have been more assertive, maybe not with this *sshole, but with other Ts or pdocs who would have scheduled me in if i let on how serious my situation was. your situation is really serious, it really is. you deserve help right away and shouldn't have to wait another week. there are people that can help you sooner, and maybe it will help you be able to open up to them if you know that they care enough about your life to extend their schedules or give up some comfort time to accommodate you. you deserve that. if you don't have anyone else to give you references, maybe you should try the crisis hotline because i'm sure they can be a good source for where to get help immediately. i can't remember if you said whether the T gave you other names. but please know that you don't have to wait a week when you feel so bad. whatever this Ts excuse doesn't matter right now. even if she had a family emergency, you're also in a crisis situation and you are worth being aggressive, being assertive. just like you let this T know how bad you're feeling, you can express that also to people who can see you right away and give you some relief. i think you'd feel better just knowing that you're not alone in this.
think about it, please!
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