Posted by daisym on January 18, 2005, at 0:19:49
In reply to Re: Pfinstegg, Antigua, Aphrodite..., posted by antigua on January 17, 2005, at 20:08:31
Thanks for all the suggestions. What I'm hearing is that sometimes there is not much you can do but let it pass. I'll try some of the other things though, they couldn't hurt!
I went today and floundered around. I was honest and told him I was worried about what had happened. We talked about my hubby a lot today, he had surgery again, and that may have been why I felt a strong need to pull back. I have things to take care of! This evolved into him asking what the different parts thought of pulling back and if little daisy was feeling stiffled or abandoned by him, since we haven't heard much from her since the pdoc appointment. Some how we ended up with me telling him that when I manage to get shut down, I think I should run from the inevitable hurt that is coming -- how do you ever detach from this relationship you are building? He was surprised, said he didn't think we even needed to be talking about termination right now. I sort of dumped out there again that he had no idea how much I struggle with all of this, "this" being my need for contact with him but we were out of time. He says he needs to hear about it, wants to know what I'm thinking. But I can't help but think that this internal struggle between age states must be getting old for him. I'm resisting the post-therapy panic urge to call. I don't know what I'd say anyway.
God, I hate this!
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