Posted by Dinah on January 17, 2005, at 6:23:09
In reply to Pfinstegg, Antigua, Aphrodite..., posted by daisym on January 16, 2005, at 23:09:50
Daisy,
I'm sorry about the secretiveness too. :((
I solved the problem differently than you would want to, I think. Since rational me has no particular desire for therapy, emotional me goes instead every session, two times a week on average. The "deal" part of that is that emotional me tries to let rational me work the rest of the time, so that I can pay for therapy.
My therapist has backed me up a LOT on this. And in general the acting out has reduced a significant amount.
I know you wouldn't want to share your therapist to this extent. That's the main difference, adult you likes to see your therapist. But perhaps you and your therapist could work out an agreement for regular time with him in exchange for allowing you to work to pay for sessions in between.
Or you can put the whole thing up to "Little Daisy", perhaps with your therapist's help. You might be surprised that given the chance to make a responsible decision, with the expectation that as little as she might like it, you know she will, that she actually will. Perhaps sulk a bit, but I've found compromise isn't impossible.
poster:Dinah
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