Posted by littleone on January 17, 2005, at 0:24:46
In reply to Managing Age States, posted by daisym on January 12, 2005, at 19:47:48
> I'm curious how others manage a raging, non-primary, age state. If one of the younger parts is up and out, and upset or angry or whatever, how do you get this part to calm down enough to leave a therapy session? Or not interfere with your work?
Hi daisy,
I thought you and your T had already worked out a method of leaving the session as adult daisy, although I could be mistaken. I guess he could start asking you adult questions for a few minutes before the end of the session, eg what are you doing at work tomorrow, what are you cooking for dinner, etc. I'm guessing that would either put little daisy away ... or make her throw a fit.
I guess it's all part of reparenting her. She needs to learn that she can't always get her way RIGHT NOW. Although I don't have a clue how to reparent her. Probably why I have no urges to become a parent myself.
Re the specific example you gave, I don't know how you could have prevented your reaction to that. It would have been a pretty strong trigger for you no matter what.
I hope you're feeling a bit better today.
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