Posted by messadivoce on January 17, 2005, at 15:39:53
In reply to Re: 10derheart(VERY long), posted by pinkeye on January 17, 2005, at 14:08:12
Thanks pinkeye. You raise some good points. I'm sure it would have been hard under the best possible circumstances. And my rumination may be crazymaking...at some point I know I need to acknowledge that his response is out of my control and it's so different now b/c we're not communicating face-to-face.
I am seeing a new T and it's a woman. I was afraid to go to another man for the same reason you were, and I wanted someone who knew my former T. I have received the same advice about investing in a new relationship before, and it's difficult for me because I came to see my old T as a father figure. My own dad is emotionally unavailable and we've had a problematic relationship for years. I have a wonderful supportive boyfriend but he just doesn't fulfill that need in me for my dad (nor should he!).
My former T helped me work on my relationship with my dad but left before that work was even close to being complete. My new T is addressing it now. She acknowledges that the male who was available (my old T) isn't anymore and that the "available" male (my dad) isn't really clued in on how much I need him. So it's a difficult situation.
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