Posted by Dinah on January 17, 2005, at 14:40:03
In reply to Unsatisfying session today, makes me question, posted by crushedout on January 17, 2005, at 13:26:16
She's quite new yet, and bound not to know you the way your old therapist did. One thing you *must* not do though, is allow misperceptions to stand. Otherwise she never will get to know you.
Not only do I challenge my therapist when I think he's wrong, I also challenge him when I think he doesn't understand and is going to let it slide. D*mn it, I'm going to make sure he has a working understanding by the time I'm through, and I'll make him repeat it back to me in his own words to ensure that.
It was hard work, because we're not anything alike, but after all this time I've got a therapist who understands me as well as I understand myself. But I didn't leave it up to relationship magic. That happens all too infrequently. *Maybe* Daisy's therapist. :)
If I can pound understanding into my therapist's not overly imaginative and very psychobabbly head, I imagine you can manage to do it with what sounds like a reasonably promising candidate. And if she's not willing to work with you to understand, it's best to know that too.
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