Posted by littleone on January 6, 2005, at 15:15:20
In reply to Re: T not wanting me to go there *trigger*, posted by daisym on January 6, 2005, at 0:11:12
Thank you so much for your ideas. I haven't been able to write to the mother, but I think I could write to the guy.
I actually wrote a letter to him a day or two after the accident and left it at the site. I went missing the next day and I was so upset about that. When the mother wrote to me, she explained that the aunty had picked it up and sent it to the mother. So if I leave a letter there just before the anniversary, I'd say it would get passed on again.
I think I'd be okay with that. I guess if I wrote it then decided I didn't want her to see it, I could do something else with it rather than leave it at the site. I'll have to think about it.
Re going alone, I know I shouldn't, but I can't bare to go with someone else and have them see me so upset and vunerable. Even my husband. I'd be too focused on trying to keep up the facade to be able to even think about grieving. He doesn't know how unwell I've felt. I haven't wanted to hurt/worry him. The cutting upsets him enough.
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