Posted by Aphrodite on January 5, 2005, at 19:31:44
In reply to Re: Absolutely disconnected - long reply, posted by Daisym on January 4, 2005, at 20:02:41
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> <<<<<I noticed you said "his" room, not "my appointment." I'm struck by this.I've picked that up from him. He always says, "When you were in my room the other day . . ." "I could feel your pain when you were sitting across from me in my room . . ." I like it; it's nice.
>>I'm guessing kindness was a prelude to your abuse so this just makes your protective side stronger.This is very true for a good part of my abuse. I had some overt abuse when I was young, but the csa was always after I was lulled into a false sense of security, "seduced" by the kindnesses. I craved people being nice to me and would cherish it even from abusers. You may be on to something here . . .
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> <<<<((((Aphrodite))) He's not gone. You've just moved away. It is part of the trust dance.Thanks for the hug! It is true that I've moved away. He left messages for me again today, and I found myself listening to them repeatedly, so I must still have connection or at least the need/desire for it. I appreciate all of your insightful thoughts, as always.
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