Posted by Daisym on January 4, 2005, at 19:15:50
In reply to Re: Ever been sad and not know why? » Annierose, posted by daisym on January 4, 2005, at 0:57:56
I think everyone struggles with telling their therapist how they feel about them, and therapy because it can be misinterpreted. And it seems that some (many?) therapists do not consider the relationship the curative factor, so they don't want/need to hear about those feelings. I think unless your therapist opens the door to hear about them, many people keep them unsaid.
I still struggle with these strong feelings, the fear they engender and the shame too. It might be easier to handle if they WERE sexual, at least they would be grown up! BUT, I made a commitment to myself that if I was going to go through this, I was going to tell as much of the truth as I could force myself to tell. So if I miss him, I tell him. He makes it easy to talk about though.
I'm glad you could bridge some of this with her. And I think it is sweet that she was wearing your gift and wanted to talk about your letter. Don't be surprised if she refers back to it. My therapist does this all the time. He put the box I gave him in his office and has referred to it several times, especially about it holding the hope. (Hope was all that was left when Pandora opened her box.)
I can't imagine not seeing his reaction. I need to have that small nod of the head when I'm telling something hard, or to see that it is OK by his expression. You are doing more traditional analysis, right? Lying down and going everyday? Did you tell her you were thinking about Babble threads today?
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