Posted by daisym on January 4, 2005, at 0:57:56
In reply to Re: Ever been sad and not know why?/Dinah » 10derheart, posted by Annierose on January 3, 2005, at 21:05:20
Annie,
What would you have liked to say to your therapist that she missed? Were you sad about missing her? Where you sad to feel with her what might be missing or have been missing from others in your life?
When I get sad like this, I find that it is as Dinah said, a surfacing of held emotions. Especially on Mondays. It seems counter-intuitive, because you would think things would just spill out after being contained for so long. But I find it so hard to get started, like I need to poke around and be sure he is still the same, still willing to listen, and I know I'm checking the "mood in the room." (Old habit)
I went into therapy because of these haunting bad feelings. My therapist used to tell me just to sit and listen to them. But that is so very hard, especially when I dissociate so badly. One of the things I did figure out is that the sadness is often about no one in my life noticing I'm hurting. I felt invisible, like I didn't matter, except for the tasks I perform. And that made me sad. When my therapist said, "you matter to me" the tears poured out, so we knew we had hit the nail on the head.
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