Posted by Dinah on January 4, 2005, at 7:44:34
In reply to Absolutely disconnected, posted by Aphrodite on January 4, 2005, at 6:56:06
I've had many such moments, even now. I'm even experiencing one right now, to a lesser extent than you.
I've found that it passes; once an attachment has been made it's hard to break. It can feel broken for a while. But true emotional divorce is a lengthy process.
If I were you, I'd continue to go at the regularly scheduled intervals. Actually, I'd probably call to see him ASAP. :) You'll be better doing your work when you aren't distracted by what's going on. If you're really busy right now, you can ask him to step back from the hard stuff and work on bonding stuff.
Is he perhaps pursuing you too hard? My therapist utterly annoys me by accepting my decisions, even if he states disapproval of them. Still, it somehow helps me by not giving me anything to exert equal and opposite reaction to.
Here's something that sometimes used to work for me. I'd sit very very quietly and concentrate on the feelings in my stomach. (My feelings reside in my stomach. - smile) I'd focus deeper and deeper. When I was feeling disconnect, it was usually at the rational level. At the emotional level, I'd usually be able to detect either attachment or anger. And anger meant there was something that needed to be hashed out in therapy.
What do you feel on a deeper level? Is it possible that you feel disconnected from yourself as much or more as from your therapist?
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