Posted by annierose on January 2, 2005, at 17:58:18
In reply to Re: Husbands and therapy - Daisy » peacefeline, posted by gardenergirl on January 2, 2005, at 17:24:23
I agree with above posters, I do think there is a
hidden hurt(?) with your husband and it expresses itself in these angry off-handed comments. My mom (mind you I'm 43) recently made a comment like that, "I wonder if that x,y,z is going to be a discussion in your therapy." My T said that on some level, my mom is probably worried with my conversations in therapy and definitely with my connection to my T. I understand it's totally a different situation with a spouse. My husband is supportive, but I think he would benefit from therapy himself. We've gone to marriage counseling in the past, and it was helpful to both of us. I wouldn't mind going again, but not when I'm in the midst of my own therapy ... too many cooks in the kitchen (the kitchen being my BRAIN!). Good Luck Daisy!! I just have to add, I read where you have only been in therapy for 18 months on another of your posts, I was amazed at how much progress you seemed to have made in such a short time, relatively. You are doing such difficult work and I'm sure your husband is seeing some changes. And change is hard.
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